I can write a book about how much I love this record and the message behind it, but I’ll keep it short because it made me think about a particular woman I was really feeling. Peace to Fatima for putting me on to his jawn way back in school… I know this was your jam. 😉 Let’s go!
The simple act of just asking a chick out on a “date” takes confidence, pride and the willingness to take rejection. Last time I asked a girl out… I’d have to say it was January 2009… I’ll be honest at the time it wasn’t something I was willing to admit until after it happened because the feeling I had was so real and good I didn’t want to complicate it by putting the pressures of adding the technical name “date” to it. So we mutually made the effort to “meet up.”
After I saw how fly she was, how charming and all of the above she was; our “meet up” meant a bit more to me because I walked away liking this chick even more and didn’t want to lose the opportunity to express that to her so I did and established it as “date” status.
Long story short… It didn’t workout to be more than the one time… Our connection grew, but fell short and ended up not going anywhere good. I can’t blame her or myself for that. It’s just the way things are sometimes, but I feel deep down that one day it will magically fix itself (Yep I believe in magic… 🙂 )
But at least I can live with myself and say I took the chance and expressed how I really felt at the time we actually met face to face because that shit is hard to do. I don’t like to establish definitive labels on things I do all the time (especially with women), but when something is right… IT’S RIGHT. That’s how I felt about this and I was happy and wanted to let her know that.
Since then… I’ve been out with other women and I’m having my fun and living it up still, but it’s not the same as that particular time because that person was special. So special that once I was no longer skeptical about it I wanted to make sure she knew that before I left the scene…
Ironically she was the one who found me and as down as I feel about losing her at times, I kind of smile knowing that at least she was there for me (for us) for a good period of time as a friend. Yep a friend because that’s what every ideal person in our lives should really be. I’m eternally grateful for that and optimistic about life even more because of her being around for that time. 🙂
So yeah… Luther’s words have influenced me and some of the hardest niggas in rap. First Young Chris (State Property) quoted his lines from this song called “Do You Want Me” and his boss Jay-Z did a whole song lifting the same quotable for his smash “Excuse Me Miss.” Niggas know…
So I’m chillin’ till the day I can say these words to a young lady with some heart and mean it… “Excuse me miss, but what’s your name? Where are you from and can I come and possibly… Can I take you out tonight? To a movie, to the park, I’ll have you home before it’s dark. So let me know, can I take you out tonight?“
I’m really gonna say it too… Just like that, with a little bit of autotune on my voice to make it sound like I’m hitting those notes right. 🙂
H Diddy Blogger… OUT
PS: This is really just a message to men and women out there who are scared to take chances. Whether they’re right or wrong at least going for it is the ultimate satisfaction. I didn’t have to meet this chick or go through the shit we went though… At the end of the day I learned and grew from it. And even though I feel hurt by the situation, I can’t complain because that’s part of the whole deal… We can force a happy ending to anything we do in life, but inside it’s not real and that isn’t cool… It has to come to us naturally… Then and only then will it be worth all the trouble. This chick was and still is worth all the trouble in my eyes and at least she got the chance to hear it from me. 😉
Don’t care if I get rejected
At least then I won’t regret it
Regret the fact I missed the chance for romance
At least I’ll walk away knowing
I tried my best and I’m going
Cause at least she heard me say
I’m going on with my day
Cause at least she heard me say
D/L: ===> Luther Vandross – Take You Out